Sometimes what we see is not what other people see.
Thank you Tresa.
Everyone read this. Now.
I appreciate the sentiment in this here but some of this implies physical separates gender which I just need to rant on for a moment is wrong.
Gender is also biological, it is just the biology of the brain formed in the womb this is why people take hormones to bring their sex back to the function in which the brain expects. Misinforming people by making this seem like a psychological issue is a slippery slope and once started it just cascades into a “treat them with therapy/they’re freaks” mentality which is frankly far too false to get through. Trans on a general whole is a biological one that falls into the same categories as intersex recounted research involving breaking open the brains of separate trans related cases and studying the brain function pre and post hormone of those who “identify” as the opposing gender.
for anyone who thinks female armpit hair is ‘no big deal’ these days, for those who question my insistence that my armpit hair on my femme body is a genderqueer expression that has been targeted for violence time and again, check out this comment on my youtube.
why is female hair so offensive? how is it any different from male hair? this shit is ridiculous.
….”hit you with a fucking crowbar”? for having armpit hair? wow.
Oh phew thank god I have clothes on, my self worth and dignity are in those
OH FUCK MY CLOTHES ARE OFF OH NO NOW I’M A GIANT SLUT MOOOONSTEERR
No I think I’m okay
Holy wow I’m still the same person I was two seconds ago
Would you look at that
So fuck you for thinking otherwise
you thought I didn’t really notice. But I did. I wanted to high-five you. Yesterday I had a pair of brothers in my store. One was maybe between 15-17. He was a wrestler at the local high school. Kind of tall, stocky and handsome. He had a younger brother, who was maybe about 10-12 years old. The only way to describe him was scrawny, neat, and very clean for a boy his age. They were talking about finding a game for the younger one, and he was absolutely insisting it be one with a female character. I don’t know how many of y’all play games, but that isn’t exactly easy. Eventually, I helped the brothers pick a game called Mirror’s Edge. The youngest was pretty excited about the game, and then he specifically asked me.. “Do you have any girl color controllers?” I directed him to the only colored controllers we have which includes pink and purple ones. He grabbed the purple one, and informed me purple was his FAVORITE. The boys had been taking awhile, so their father eventually comes in. He see’s the game, and the controller, and starts in on the youngest about how he needs to pick something different. Something more manly. Something with guns and fighting, and certainly not a purple controller. He tries to convince him to get the new Zombie game “Dead Island.” and the little boy just stands there repeating “Dad, this is what I want, ok?” Eventually it turns into a full blown argument complete with Dad threatening to whoop his son if he doesn’t choose different items. That’s when big brother stepped in. He said to his Dad “It’s my money, it’s my gift to him, if it’s what he wants I’m getting it for him, and if your gonna hit anyone for it, it’s going to be me.” Dad just gives his oldest son a strong stern stare down, and then leaves the store. Little brother is crying quietly, I walk over and ruffle his hair (yes this happened all in front of me.) I say “I’m a girl, and I like the color blue, and I like shooting games. There’s nothing wrong with what you like. Even if it’s different than what people think you should.” I smile, he smiles back (my heart melts!) Big brother then leans down, kisses little brother on the head, and says “Don’t worry dude.” They check out and leave, and all I can think is how awesome big brother is, how sweet little brother is, and how Dad ought to be ashamed for trying to make his son any other way.
Trans* women are every bit “real” girls as anyone born by our society’s definition as “female”. Yes, trans* women were not born with a vagina, but that does not make them any less of girls. Gender is a social construction, and any woman is standardized by a set of ideals society has made. A MtF person is still a woman, despite what your ignorant ideology leads you to believe.
Yes, it is just one commercial, but that doesn’t detract from its impact. Mediated messages largely teach us how to interact with one another. The media has an extreme influence on each and every person no matter how much you would like to think that it doesn’t. Ever heard pink is for girls, blue is for boys? Why is that? Because a 1940’s campaign bolstering femininity called “Think Pink” lead the way on that thought process. Or how about men having to be masculinized and drink beer? Think of how many commercials there are during the Superbowl with men drinking alcohol in them. Why is that? Because our society has lead us to believe that men should watch sports, and so the Superbowl is largely geared towards the male crowd in advertising in commercials. Our media heavily impacts our society’s constructions of what it means to be male or female.
So when that ad shows us that a MtF woman is not considered to be a “real girl” simply because she cannot use a tampon that promotes a highly discriminatory and prejudiced stance on persons of our society. They are allowing a form of transphobia to permeate commercials and thus our mass means of communication.
That commercial is extremely transphobic, and I’ll be damned if I let you say derogatory and degrading things about a real woman.